Relationships. Part 1. Intimacy
Growing up my mom would say often ‘You have to love yourself Michelle.’
To the point I would get annoyed and question how am I not loving myself.
As life becomes our greatest teacher, I realized there was a part of the puzzle missing.
Letting love in.
My mentor said: Intimacy is about receiving love.
I got emotional because for decades I didn’t know how to receive love without having to do something for it or try to be perfect or of service in someway.
I didn’t know how to trust the receiving of love without being hyper vigilant, waiting for the shoe to drop at any moment.
Trauma does that.
Living in survival does that.
Living in toxic abusive patterns does that.
Living in triangulation / toxic environments does that.
Betrayal wounds can do that.
Hormonal issues can do that.
Disconnection to self, Spirit and Mama Nature can do that.
The mind can create the perfect prison to keep you ‘safe.’
Not the kind of safety that actually nourishes real growth and soul development.
The ‘safety’ we hear in society today is about keeping us small, weak, vulnerable.
Because it’s rooted in keeping our egos and the personality our egos created ‘safe.’
✨True relationships are rooted in values, safety, trust.
Both parties doing the work to be the best version of themselves FOR themselves AND each other.
✨Value like connection, freedom, respect are so important.
It begins and ends with self, and from self it reaches out to others.
If we make the other person more important, we give from a fragmented sense of self.
We cannot create intimacy with another if we do not create intimacy with ourselves.
We cannot create pleasure with another if we are disconnected to our own self pleasure.
When trust is broken, it requires us to get radically honest with ourselves on where trust within ourselves gets to be restored in order heal and repair with another.
To be continued.
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